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 Hey folks..... My
LIFE story may seems to
you all like a
FAIRY TALE... but let me
tell u its not. Its a
REAL LIFE STORY of
a girl... who was brought up by a
SINGLE
MOTHER.....You might be thinking why I
was brought up by a single mother...here
I am to tell you the real story....... My
mom is a
Great Lady whom I love more
then anyone in this
Entire World...she
is everything to me... despite
everything that has happened to me I am greatful for having a mother like mine... who cared n loved me so
much... avoiding all the gossips of the
cruel world...... She was a beautiful n
charming girl with a
Nightingale's
voice... I at times wonder if she was
sent straight from Heaven to apply her
talents in this Universe..... Am I boring
you well let me make the story
short... she started her singing carrier
as a female vocalist since she was
7years old and used to perform in the
musical concerts in the various places
with her bands.... as and then she grew
up to a Teenager... and guess what she
met her
Dream Prince, he was also a
member from her band.... he used to
perform as a male vocalist.... and they
fell in
LOVE... it was a pure n true
love of teenage... without any
expectations from each other.... just
LOVE and only
LOVE.... Love was all
around them.... so the years passed...
they decided to bond in a relationship
as a husband and wife.... then they ran
away from their families and started
their new life... because they knew that
their parents would never agree with the
decisions they made... as they were from
different
Community and Casts...... the
time went by,... my mother conceived
me... on knowing this her husband said he
would talk to his parents about it...
and left her and went to meet his
parents..... alas never to return.....
He ran away to another place... then my
mother started to hunt for Him
everywhere she could without any luck...
she could not find him anywhere.... and
she could not go to his parents house
too coz' they she had married their son
against their wish.... so a Helpless
lady went back to her own parents house
saying that she was ditched by the man
whom she loved and cared more than any
one else in the world.. she wasn't
welcomed so well by her family too but
she had no where to go... she
started living with her family.........
her delivery time came nearer and
nearer... her family started to care for
her more and every one in that family
waited for the baby's coming... but she
was treated badly by the people in her
neighborhood and also her relatives as
she was giving birth to a fatherless
baby.. when she was in a great need.
when she wanted him to be by her side at
every single moment for those nine
months, he wasn't there for her, she was
so helpless, emotionally he was wrought
but that was her personal grief that was
why she didn't gave a damn to the people
and their loud mouth... those days were
like a Nightmare for her but... finally
the day arrived.....on a rainy day of
July... she was taken to the hospital in
her own small town... then after a long
period of pain... she gave birth to a
baby girl on
July 22,... she was so
happy to see the baby who was healthy...
and from that day her
New Life
started.... then she was a none working
lady, as she had to stop her singing
carrier also in the period of nine
months when she was carrying a
baby........ but now the baby was looked
after by her grand parents (mother's
Family) who loved her a lot and was
taken care like a flower though they
were not so well off....she was from a
middle class family.... so, when the
baby was 3-4 years old, she started
going to school where her mother could
afford it... Her mother gave her
initials of her own...the baby didn't
even knew who her father was... she used
to call her grandpa-baba and garndma-
aama, and she used to call her mother
Mummy...... and one day one of her
cousin aunt told her that she had no
father... and the person whom she calls
Baba, he is her mother's dad, not hers'
and also mentioned the fact that her
father had left her when she was in her
mother's womb... the incident took place
when she was about eight years old... she was so frustrated... but she
didn't ask her mother anything because
she didn't want to hurt her mother...and
then she started to hunt for the man who
had left her mother and ran away... but
the poor girl had not even seen his
picture nor had she heard his name
...the little girl was desperate beyond
measures.... a year went by in a tensed
mood. her grand parents wanted her
mother to get re-married and give the
baby girl.. her father's name... but the
Great lady wasn't ready, but with the
force of her families and
relatives....and she had to take that
step once again after 10 years from her
broke up marriage.... then the
Real Life
started for the Lady who had faced so
many obstacles and hurdles in those 10
years of her Life.... she found such a
gentle man.... who it seemed like was
sent down by the
Almighty God straight
from
Heaven for them.... the girl got
the father who loved her more than his
own child...she got her family and love
of a father for she was longing for so
long,... and after few years her mother
gave birth to a baby boy...as her
younger brother...the girl loved him so
much and again after a year she gave
birth to another baby boy.... then they
became 5 in the family... though her
step- father received the gifts of two
baby boys from her mother of his own....
he never stopped loving and caring for
the girl ever..... and then she became
teenager and went to collage.... and
started working to do something for her
family though they didn't expect
anything from her.... she went abroad to
work... where she worked for an Indian
family.. though she was qualified... she
had no support to get into some
respected job... but she was happy to
work for them... they treated her as
family member and she worked for them
for almost a year and a half, saved
every penny and bought a plot for her
parents as a gift and she moved to
another country as she wasn't making
sufficient money to do more for her
family and she started making more money
and she bought a car and a big
Dream
House for her parents... now she is 24
years old.... after such a long period
of gap she happened to know that her own
Father is still alive and doing well,
has his own happy family with two sons,
who are 22 and 17 years old.... so it
means, that man didn't care to wait even
for couple of years to get back to his
first wife. who
was carrying his blood in her womb and
he ditched her and ran away and got
re-married and started his
New Fresh
Life....
he dared to do all this coz' he knew
that no one will point their finger to
him coz' he is a
MAN
you know... and can never be wrong and
hence never answerable to anyone, but
the poor lady was not to be treated
similarly... who was left behind in the
mouth of the people like
COBRAS, ready to bite her
any moment.... then one day... the girl
met a man who was so brotherly to her
and gave her so much respects and love..
cared for her... then she told him and
his wife about her life story and the
man was so furious and from the very
first day... he started looking for the
clue to reach that girl's real father
and eventually succeed to achieve his
goal.... he found out where the real
father of that girl was living and also
his phone no... then he made her talk to
him... the day was the 6th of
December 06' that girl was talking to her own
father for the first time in her Life
and she asked Him lots of questions
related to her Mother and he answered to
all of her questions and finally he
asked her who she is???? And she
answered him that she is a daughter of
that lady whom he had ditched 24 years
ago.... he got the shock of his life...
as it was almost a
Nightmare to him...
but he accepted that he was the
Father.... then the conversations
went on and on for hours... the both of
them ended up crying... the girl had
lived with the hate for her father for
so long and she really wanted to meet
him one day and fight with him and end
the relationship.... but it didn't
happen like that.... she couldn't do as
she had planned... as
Heartless as her
Father... she had all the good qualities
of her Great Mother and her
golden Heart
capable of forgiveness.... then father
started calling her every single day and
spoke to her for hour and hour... then
he told his present wife about the girl
and he managed to convinced her...he
made the girl speak to his present
wife.. who was such a nice lady.... and
she spoke to her step brothers too...
they accepted her warm heartedly.... so,
the story of the girl went on... and she
finally achieved her Precious
Dream of
her Life.... but if there ever came a
time when she had to choose between two
of her fathers.. she would definitely go
for her Step father... coz as there is
saying...."Janma diney
bhanda Karma diney thuloo".... but she
still hasn't meet her real father in
person till now... lets see when the
time comes.. when is God's will for her
to meet her Father in real...... so I
would like to suggest the people,....
do
the right thing, no one will dare to
stop you.... do as your heart says......
and you'll achieve your goal one fine
day...though its late....you'll be the
ultimate winner......
Comments:
You must be so lucky to have mother like her.. Let me salute ur mother.. I really admire her.. despite all the situation n luck she grew u up in single stand. She is a brave women I have ever seen in my life.... Say my heartily regards to ur mother.. Mother u are da best... u are all in one mother I love u........ Once again I salute u mother. Regards claxy
--Claxy Sharma, London, UK
Hi, I read this story I liked very much. This story touched my heart.
--Milan sharma, R.K.Gulf, Qatar
Hey, this story touched my heart....
--Kanchan Ghimire
Well done recess team. U should improve slightly. It is designed creatively. You published an article without author, "MY LIFE
WAS LIKE A BIG WAVE...BUT HAS MADE THE TURNING POINT AT LAST". Who wrote this nice story?
I appreciate & salute her. In real,
to believe someone is a starting point of broken life...
--Ashlesha Sharma, Birmingham, UK
Special feedback to ... "My life was like a big wave but has made the turning point at last"..... Hey everybody...!! It's a
story which challenges the cruel world. This story is written by tears. Like a drama... the author meets a turning point at
last. It's very interesting.... This is a story of a great mum & her golden daughter. Pls write after your turning point too.
Thanks to recesscafe team.
--Romee Shrestha, Lalitpur-14, Satdobato, Nepal
I found very nice site. This cafe is wonderful. I
appreciate this creative team of youngsters.......
I saw all your articles. Among them a story of a brave lady
impressed me. It's really a story of a big wave. MY LIFE WAS LIKE A BIG WAVE.. is a strong story of two generations of two brave ladies.
Please write more about yourself.....
--Kritika Basnet, Kathmandu. Currently at: Sidney, Australia
It's a very nice site. Articles are also fine. In u-turn, there are two effective columns. First, story of a mother & her daughter.... MY LIFE WAS A BIG WAVE.... which represents the sentiments of our
surroundings. It touches everybody's heart. Hey friends..!! pls learn from this
article...
In next, there is a picture of king Gyanendra who should begin by learning to put on his shoes. He earned 37,385 times higher than a citizen last year. It proves how kingship is making our country dry. Pls provide more informations about him.
--Prakash Chetry, London, United Kingdom
One of my friend
referred me to watch your very nice site. It is designed very creatively. Nepal is my best place & I love it.
This cafe keeps Nepal with us.
...Among your articles 2 are pointed. About
Nepal's king who earns thousands times more than his poor people. Next, a story of
a girl in generation... "MY LIFE LIKE WAS A BIG WAVE" this story touched me. In fact, she should fight against this all...
--Tshusima Kanjee, Tokyo, Japan
Thanks recesscafé for you appreciative job. But it's a kind of boring – café without coffee yaar.. haha.. just kidding.
Well, I am very glad to read the wonderful article “Life was like a big wave...”. The writer has really presented the article
in an interesting way also; I am very touched by this article. Well done!! Keep on writing- do all the best. You are
the great writer and let us have opportunities to read this kind of articles in the coming days too.
--Tas Gurung, War Zone
Wow!!! Recesscafe is a wonderful website. I
appreciate this team. I love this site. All articles & columns are fine.... &
design is also very nice.
...this cafe without coffee proves.. Nepalese youth do a lot for Nepal..
At last I should write something about one column... MY LIFE WAS LIKE A BIG WAVE..... I want to know who is that great chori..
I got power to strive more..
This nice site.. is really a great cafe of Nepalese youth..
--Prem Agrawal, Guang Zhou, China
Great Chori, your
article 'My life was like a big wave..', a real life story, is really a heart touching. Your great mom was
not single, u were with her. Due to your golden heart capable of forgiveness made u great too. In real u
achieved your precious
dream of yr life. Your story proved it... "Dukhi ko ghar ma matrai timro baash hune vaye, hey Ishwor! daya rakhi malai ajhai
dukha deu".. by Kavi Lekh Nath Paudel.
You suffered through like a fairy tale.
Your story touched my heart. If it is a real story, I salute that chori & her mum who challenged this world &
achieved their
precious dream. like a song.... "Jasko nimti sara sansar chodi gaye..." for whom she left all things, he left her for ever.
But without...... she suffered her life like a story. She was really a great lady like twinkling star in dark sky in this
cruel world. In fact mother is always great. But this real story proved mother is only not great she is the greatest. If
I I
meet her once, I will salute her & express my feelings without words, without sounds. Everybody
should learn from that chori
of this story who strived & achieved her U-turn facing with rocks.
If the brave chori of this story wrote more.... about her, it will be more interesting. If i write about her, according to my
imagination, I think a big book may be created.... pls write next episode too...
I hope article like this story... improves this prestigious web site.. rapidly.
--Rohit Khadka, Kathmandu, Nepal
Dear friends..... I comment lately.
Your site is excellent. I love it.
"My life was like a big wave.." touched my heart. I am impressed from the actress of that real story.... That was a story of
a great mother & willing daughter versus cruel world. At last she got U-turn.... like a fairy tale.
Other articles are also very very nice. I'll be with yr group as a well wisher...
--Deewesh Agrawal, Birgunj, Nepal
"My life was like a big wave...." is a story of struggle of a great lady in this entire world...
Thanks to this site too...
--Kanchan Ghimire, Dubai, UAE
Hey guys... its really nice site... U guys r going off the hook... Keep it up.... I happened to know about this site just today itself and love the article about MY LIFE WAS LIKE A BIG WAVE..... I must say that the two characters... mother and the daughter both r really brave hearted... I must salute them....
--Julie Thomas, Sydney, Australia
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 When my friend, Saili, at the tender age
of 18 despite being labeled
“characterless” had choose to study over
getting married I had wondered upon her
option.
But nine years later I do not find
anything unusual about yet another
friend making a bold decision about her
life. She bid goodbye to a lavish life
in her husband's home, in a foreign
country, in search of self dignity and
self-identity.
But her act of patriotism has not only
left her disillusioned about her
country's attitude towards her but also
made me realize that women in this
country are still deprived their rights.
Let's take the example of citizenship
act passed on November 26, where a bona
fide Nepali woman marrying a foreign
husband simply has to abandon her
husband if she desires to give her
children with her own name. The thing in
the act that stunned me is the fact that
the same is not applicable to a man
marrying a foreign lady. What difference
is there between a Nepali guy marrying a
foreigner and a Nepali Cheli (daughter),
marrying a foreigner?
For I can come up with no other reason
other than this for the unfavorable law
for all those deciding to marry a
foreigner.
To say the least I am simply amazed. How
can a country which has signed so much
of international human rights
instruments, simply undermine over half
of its population. How can it still
treat women as secondary citizens? My
deepest concern is who is there to
decide or allocate on what should be
given to woman and what not? And who are
they to do so?
When the country is talking so much
about Loktantra with secured human
rights of its nationals, how can it be
bias towards the rights of women?
What is the logic behind that? Do they
mean to say that they are the same,
(tyrant), for what they fought against?
Besides being restricted from giving
citizenship to her children, she also
can’t transfer her citizenship to her
husband even if he is ready to reside
with her in her homeland, abandoning his
country and nationality. However, it is
not only the issue on whether or not she
can transfer citizenship, but the
attitude of the government. I ask
everyone in the decision making position
in the government one simple question.
On what ground do you dare to violet the
human right of an individual just
because she is woman?
United Nations High Commissioner for
Human Rights which came to Nepal in the
country’s special request to monitor
human rights violation had sent a
written complain to the speaker of the
House of the Representatives (HoR) on
24th November to express serious concern
over the proposed Citizenship Bill
cleared by the State Affairs Committee,
saying it is gender biased Whatsoever,
the article eight and nine of the 1990
constitution which was discriminatory
against woman regarding their
citizenship rights has been scraped and
new citizenship act has been formulated.
But the act still contradicts the
constitution of the country. The
constitution has ensured right to
equality and non discrimination.
Similarly, article nine of Convention on
the Elimination of All forms of Violence
Against Women (CEDAW), which women
recite it as a Bedha to which the
country is party, had asked the country
to amend the constitution to make it
gender neutral. Though it has been
amended it has failed to ensure the
essence of the CEDAW, which clearly says
about equal right in-confirming
citizenship to spouse or children by
both sexes. This has denied women’s
status in case of a Nepali woman married
to foreign man. This is not same in the
case of men. I think that women’s right
to choose residence, right to family and
right to choice has again been
overlooked by the state. My concern here
is that the state itself has looked down
up on the independent existence of woman
as its citizen.
The act passed by the State Affairs
Committee was a bit progressive than
what it came into real. It had agreed on
issuing the citizenship on the basis of
descent to the children born to Nepali
mom and foreign father too.
But the house of the parliament changed
it into naturalized citizenship..
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